Self-Esteem Therapy

in Tampa and throughout FL

Heal your relationship with yourself

Does it feel like your sense of self is at an all time low?

You wake up each morning feeling like something is holding you back. You struggle with negative thoughts about yourself and feel unworthy and hopeless. You find yourself feeling jealous of other people who exude confidence and wish that you could just feel better about who you are. You had a picture of how your life might turn out but it didn’t quite end up the way you had hoped.

You’ve tried to find ways to feel better - you have read the self help books, listened to podcasts, and tried to put a “positive spin” on things. You might have even seen other therapists and tried to explore some of these thoughts with little result. What’s even more frustrating is that you can’t quite put your finger on what is making you feel this way - it often presents as an overwhelming sense of dread or sadness or leaves you feeling anxious without being able to touch on what is making you feel that way.

You know that you want to feel differently, but can't even imagine what that might look like. You feel stuck and often alone in this.

You are ready to dig deep and figure out what is going on and how life could be different.

 Your relationship with yourself might leave you:

Feeling uncomfortable in (or totally avoiding) social situations

Having a difficult time functioning at work

With a sense people are “walking all over you”

Feeling heightened discomfort in your body

Walking around in a “fog”

With a feeling that you are failing at life

Anxious and/or depressed

Having a difficult relationship with food as a way to cope

With feelings of not wanting to be around anymore

Hesitating to take chances

Doubting yourself and your abilities

What to expect when you improve your self-esteem

Imagine a life where:

  • You trust your inner wisdom (ie your core self)

  • You feel confident in your life choices

  • You are able to make decisions about what feels right for you (and not for anyone else)

  • You know what to do when you are feeling anxious/sad/not regulated

  • You feel secure and confident in your relationships

  • You have a true sense of self-worth regardless of your successes/failures

  • You feel purpose and direction

  • You understand what you want for yourself vs what society “expects” of you

My approach to self-esteem therapy

I feel strongly that each individual needs their own approach based on what they are struggling with. This means really getting to know what is showing up for you in your day-to-day life, and how you ended up where you are today. For some this might mean dealing with trauma that you have experienced in your life, and for others it might mean understanding your unique personality and the way that your brain works best. 


I believe that the world we live in asks a LOT of us. We are raised to think that there is a “best” way to live, a “right” way that our body should look, and that the choices that we make are either good or bad (black and white thinking at its best). The truth is that what is right for one person may not be right for the next person. We are told that there are rules we need to follow to be “successful” and if we don’t follow those rules then we are the ultimate failure. This has a heavy impact on the way that we feel about ourselves and the ways in which we navigate our lives

Therapy for self-esteem can help you…

  • Grow your confidence 

  • Improve your relationship with others

  • Reconnect with your inner wisdom and values

  • Trust that you are making choices that are right for you

  • Gain insight and learn to trust yourself

  • Feel empowered around your own healing

  • Navigate life stressors with more ease

It’s possible to improve your self-esteem and your relationship with yourself.

Frequently Asked Questions about Self-Esteem

  • Self-esteem is the way in which we view and value ourselves. You also could think of this as your sense of “self.” This exists on a spectrum - some people naturally have high self-esteem, and others struggle with their sense of self based on a myriad of factors in their life. Self-esteem is often described as our own sense of worth.

  • The way we feel about ourselves can be impacted by many different factors in our lives. It is influenced by our upbringing (caregivers, the way we were raised, etc), societal norms and values (for example, weight stigma can greatly impact someone’s self-esteem and sense of worth), our unique neurotype (ie the way our brains work), and a variety of other factors. In order to figure out what is going on with our self-esteem, we often need to dig deep into what has happened in our lives up until this point and gain understanding of the ways that we have needed to cope to survive up until this point.

  • Absolutely (I wouldn’t be doing this work if I didn’t believe that!). Many of us have been taught not to trust ourselves and to follow along with rules that just don’t align with who we truly are. In the same way that we learned these things, we can unlearn them and start to integrate ways of navigating life that feel more true to us.

    Hot tip - you don’t need to feel confident all the time to have better self-esteem. We can know that we are worthy no matter how we are feeling in any given moment.

Self-Esteem Therapy Can Be Helpful Along With Treatment For:

  • Eating Disorders

  • Disordered Eating & Diet Recovery

  • Body Image

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Trauma

Some of the Ways that I Treat Self-Esteem Struggles

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Utilizing parts work can be incredibly helpful when it comes to examining self-esteem and our relationship with self. IFS can help us get a better view of our internal world and the ways in which parts of us have developed (typically in ways that have truly helped to protect us - even if it doesn’t feel that way). Understanding our parts can bring tremendous relief - for example we can shift from feeling “anxious” to understanding that a part of us is anxious and knowing what to do to helps support that part when it is more present. 

Brainspotting

Brainspotting is a brain-based therapy that can help us more deeply process how we feel, and without talking (if we choose!). We often have had past traumas or experiences that have an impact on the way we feel about ourselves, and Brainspotting can help us gain deeper understanding and healing around this. The world we live in can feel so overwhelming and overstimulating. It can bring great relief to have space to truly process the ways in which we experience the world and ourselves, and Brainspotting is a tool to do just that.